Boss, I Need to Take Care of My Mom
The time has come for me to talk to my boss about what is going on with my mom. He knows the basics, that she lives two states away and that she has fallen about 10 times in the last month. What he doesn’t know is how anxious I am about talking to him about the situation. Working for CarePartner, I am beyond blessed to have a wonderful team to work with and a wonderful boss who understands the importance of caregiving and the complicated nature of healthcare. Many other caregivers aren’t so lucky.
I scheduled a meeting with my boss a couple of days ago and jotted down notes, but was still nervous. How do you go to your boss and tell him that you need to have flex-time? That you’ll likely need to pick up and go at a moment’s notice? Or, that you may not produce much in the next couple months? How do you explain that you really love your job, and need it now more than ever, but right now your priority is elsewhere? It’s hard for me, even with an understanding boss. I can’t imagine the stress such a talk has for those afraid of losing their job, or those who get paid hourly.
I was nervous about how the conversation would go. But I took a deep breath and was honest with him. We came up with a plan together on how I can continue to work while being the primary caregiver for my mom.
Believe me, the conversation wasn’t easy, but once we got to talking, he and I came up with a solution together that worked for both of us. The hardest part was working up the courage to say to him: “I need to talk to you about my job, and it’s not my highest priority at the moment.” That took the most courage for me. But once the conversation was over, I felt so much better, knowing that my job is safe and I’m valued at work, but also being given the flexibility to do what I need to do for mom.
Sometimes, the hardest part is the act of asking for help. If you’re worried about sharing your situation and concerns with your boss, or are worried about losing your job or being denied accommodations, CarePartner can help you prepare for and have a conversation with your boss. We’ll make sure you know your rights and that you can communicate them to your boss. We can even arrange to facilitate the conversation, if that would make you more comfortable. Together we can come up with a plan that will work for you, and your boss. Give us a call at 1-800-401-9357, or email us at firstname.lastname@example.org.